If you have a little time on your hands, or even if you don’t, take a couple of moments out of your busy day to give someone a compliment. Not only will it give the person warm fuzzy feelings on what may very well be a less than perfect day, it will probably lift your spirits as well. The sooner you try this, the better!
Everyone knows someone who is a chronic compliment-giver. Some of these seemingly cheerful individuals may have good intentions, and some may not. Delivery is essential to the well-given compliment. Shouting something nice to another person across a crowded room, or delivering a comment about another person’s appearance in front of others who are not receiving any notice, may embarrass the receiver, irritate others, and express more about the complimenter’s need to get attention than the complimented’s sterling qualities. Avoid these situations whenever possible. When you are trapped, smile modestly and disappear quickly.
Some complimenters want desperately to be loved and accepted. They give compliments like unwanted gifts, forcing them on anyone they are trying to attract. This may be appreciated by egomaniacs, but most people are uncomfortable with constant displays of adoration, and may smile modestly and disappear quickly.
Another important characteristic of successful compliments is sincerity. When someone is having a bad hair day and you want to make him or her feel better, don’t mention hair. Your friend or acquaintance is hoping no one will notice, and you just drew everyone’s attention to it. However, the compliment must be tied to reality in order to be appropriate and welcome. “You are the most beautiful person I have ever seen” may be a lovely pick-up line, but try to be realistic and genuine while saying something pleasing.
There are a few rare individuals who will always attract others with seemingly little effort. They genuinely want to know what’s on your mind, say nice things that make you smile, and are pleased with everyone around them. They never have an unkind word on their lips. Just be glad to call anyone like this a friend.